The most important factor in making that decision though was both of our childhoods: I had no dad, and he had no mom. Yet, here we were as adults becoming parents--a mom AND a dad together. We thought, why not make the most of it by having one stay-at-home parent.
Could we make it on just one income? We weren't so sure!
Shortly after I became pregnant, my husband got a new job with excellent benefits and better pay. Then, about three months before I left my job, we started putting my paycheck only toward debt and savings to see if we could actually do without it. Turns out, yes, it was possible, but it was anything but easy.
Luckily, I also have an awesome part-time job, which I've had since high-school at a family business, and I can take my daughter with me! I earn about $100/week from this job, and the rest of my "earnings" come from couponing and being thrifty.
I got started couponing after going to a workshop held by a woman in her home. She told us some basics about coupons, couponing websites, and CVS deals. She told us what her mother always told her,
"I may not have much money, but I do have a little time."
Her statement has become my motto. For instance, when a friend got me to switch to cloth diapers, one thing I had to seriously consider was if I had time to wash the diapers, and if that time spent was worth the savings. It was obviously worth helping the environment, but would I be able to maintain at that level? The answer ended up being yes, but every choice has to be considered, for instance: do you have time to garden? And if you do garden, will you still have time to read? Do you have time to make your own greeting cards, time to research the best deals before shopping, or time to sort through junk to find gems at thrift stores?
Once I started digging in deeper and answering these questions for myself, I simultaneously began sharing deals or tidbits I'd find with my friends on myspace, then later, facebook. I then attended a couponing workshop with Gabrielle Blake of Couponing in Critical Times and decided to start a blog of my own.
I knew I didn't have time or interest to post every deal or every day, but I knew I wanted to share what I did find, especially when it was pertinent to my own interests--and hopefully yours as well--saving money as a vegetarian into holistic parenting, hens, etc. I also wanted to post about being biracial and finally split that off to it's own blog.
So, that's how I started this blog.
I'm currently not couponing as much. I've lost interest in getting 1,000 free bottles of lotion and have more interest in learning how to make my own! We have big goals of paying off all debt and a plan to get it done. I love many things and need to set goals for myself such as--reading more, writing more, painting more, and so on. One of my all-time favorite quotes is from the movie The Shawshank Redemption.
"Get busy living or get busy dying"
I hope to be doing a great deal of the latter in the form of all the outlets I can think of. I'll share some of that here.